Is love the absence of judgement?
I came across a quote from the Dalai Lama the other day which said, “Love is the absence of judgement”. This quote troubled me as even though it sounds good, it also doesn’t stack up.
Imagine as a parent if in my love for my child I chose not to judge them and permitted them to do whatever they liked. Would my love for them stand by and watch as they ran onto a busy road, or put their hand into a burning fire, or watch as they selfishly bullied another child, all because love shouldn’t judge.
God loves us unconditionally but He also judges us. Even when Jesus said to the crowd who had dragged the woman caught in adultery in front of Him, “He who is without sin cast the first stone” He also went on to say to the woman, “Neither do I condemn you….go now and leave your life of sin” (John 8:1-11). In His love for this woman Jesus didn’t condemn the woman, but He also made a judgement call in regard to sin…..His love and grace didn’t permit sin and leave a person in it.
The love that the Dalai Lama is speaking of is not the same as God’s perfect love for us. In the book of Revelation Jesus is found saying, “The people I love, I call to account- prod and correct and guide so that they will live at their best” (Rev 3:19 The Message paraphrase)
God’s Love is best.